Negotiating intimacy and family at distance

Qiu, Shuang

Abstract

People’s intimate relationships are becoming more fluid, uncertain and contingent as a consequence of forces such as globalisation and individualisation (Beck and Beck-Gernsheim, 2002). In a rapidly changing society, such as China, some people keep a committed heterosexual relationship whilst living separately from their partner. The emergence of non-coresidential partnerships, such as couples living apart together (LAT) relationships, challenge the societal assumption of what ‘family’ is and intimacy which is normally closely associated with physical proximity (Jamieson, 2013; Smart, 2007).

The central focus of this chapter is to examine how women in LAT relationships make sense of, negotiate and experience intimacy and family life in contemporary Chinese society, where traditional Confucian familism and prescribed gender relationships are still persistent, although lessening over time. Drawing on qualitative interviews, I look in-depth at the practices of ‘mobile intimacy’ through which people ‘do’ family and sustain relationships in the absence of a partner’s physical co-presence. When considering whether and how far Chinese people have experienced the de-traditionalisation of family and intimacy as described in Western societies, it should take caution to pre-scribed gender norms and the specific social and cultural context in which people are embedded.

Citation

Qiu, S. (2021). Negotiating intimacy and family at distance. In Negotiating Families and Personal Lives in the 21st Century (77-92). (1). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781003039433-7

• Publication Date: Nov 15, 2021
• Deposit Date: Jun 5, 2023
• Publisher: Routledge
• Pages: 77-92
• Edition: 1
• Book Title: Negotiating Families and Personal Lives in the 21st Century
• Chapter Number: 6
• ISBN: 9781003039433
• DOI: https://doi.org/10.4324/9781003039433-7